Be clear what you're discussing
What is violence against women?
‘“Violence against women” is any act of gender-based violence that results in, or is likely to result in, physical, sexual or mental harm or suffering to women, including threats of such acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or in private life.’ (United Nations Declaration on the Elimination of Violence against Women, 85th plenary meeting, December 1993)
What is sexual assault?
A person commits sexual assault if they intentionally touch another person, the touching is sexual and the person does not consent. (Metropolitan Police)
What is consent?
A person consents if they agree by choice, and have the freedom and capacity to make that choice. A person might not have sufficient capacity because of his age or because of a mental disorder. The amount someone has had to drink can also affect a person's ability to consent. (Metropolitan Police)
Here is a very British video by the Thames Valley Police which explains consent through the analogy of a cup of tea.
What is rape?
A person commits rape if they intentionally penetrate the vagina, anus or mouth of another person without consent. (Metropolitan Police)
What is gender?
Gender refers to the socially constructed characteristics of women and men – such as norms, roles and relationships of and between groups of women and men. It varies from society to society and can be changed and changes over time. (World Heath Organisation)
What is sex?
Sex is biological and physiological – it is what makes us female or male. (World Heath Organisation)
A fuller list of definitions relating to sexual abuse can be found here.